As I am creating the timeline for my clients I always ask the question ” will you be having a first look.” Some of my couples are more traditional and opt to not have one but most say yes or inquire what exactly a first look is. A first look wedding is trending nowadays and I am so happy it is. It gives the couple so much more time to spend with family and friends and allows them a private moment of their special day. But enough about me talking about it, today I brought in my dear friend and expert Ashley from Ashley Mac Photographs to chat more about it!
I’m a natural light wedding photographer based in the tri-state area and I love to travel personally and for work. I was recently married this past summer and live on the Jersey Shore with my husband Lou & adorable pup Layla. I like to say I’m a very loyal person and would do anything for my friends and family. My favorite things are a glass of red wine, summer weather all day everyday & anything the color green! I love watching Netflix, Andy Warhol’s artwork, watermelon bubblicious gum & the New York Rangers.
Your first look is an amazing part of your wedding day! For those of you who are not familiar with “First Looks”, they are AWESOME. Not everyone is aware of how awesome they are. Most couples get caught up in how “non-traditional” it is and they immediately write it off. I can talk about those brides because I was almost one of them. I hoped my Fiance would be so surprised and overcome with joy when I walked down the aisle that he bawled at the first sight of me! Isn’t that EVERY girl’s dream? Who doesn’t want that reaction? Luckily, you can have the best of both worlds with an intimate “First Look” and when you walk down the aisle. Walking down the aisle on your wedding day is a moment that you both will treasure for a lifetime.
After shooting over 200 weddings, I’ve come to this conclusion: some brides love “traditions”, but what a bride REALLY wants when it comes to her groom seeing her for the first time is a reaction. Some couples believe they may lose part of the reaction when doing a first look. They also assume that it will not be as emotional or as intimate as it would be if they were coming down the aisle. Everyone knows that wedding days are a bit stressful for the bride and groom.
The whole day is focused on you, you need to look your best, you need to be on time and you have 80-300 people staring at you as you see each other for the first time on your wedding day. This is the farthest thing from a private, intimate moment. Sure, it’s SO powerful and SO wonderful, but you don’t get to fully acknowledge each other. With a first look, not only would he get to see her… he could embrace her… cry with her…. kiss her… and ENJOY that moment with her for as LONG as they want. As she shows him her dress, twirls a few times and then asks him what he thinks… his nerves start to diminish. After all, she’s the one who can make him most comfortable anyway.
With a first look, usually the nerves are gone allowing true emotions to be expressed. For most grooms, the nerves kick in before they see their bride, because when they see her, everything becomes VERY real in a good way! All of my couples who have done a first look have cherished that moment and are so reassured they made the right decision in doing one.
You can learn more about Ashley’s services on her website. Here are some of Ashley’s favorite first looks weddings!
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